REPAIR the Divide

A retreat for healing collective wounding

 

With Dr. Hazel Grace Yates & Mos Jef

April 3rd-5th

at the Heartland Collective, Wheativlle CA

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Something's been broken between men and women for a while now.

We're seeing it everywhere; it's influences run rampant.

The mistrust. The resentment. The quiet pulling away from each other. The  reaction from a pain we didn't realize we've gotten used to.

This is largely an unconscious divide, effecting us underneath our awareness.

And yet it remains.

A lot of us are tired of the same patterns that arise as a result: getting defensive, shutting down, blaming, going silent, accidentally lashing out, constantly perceiving threat. We keep doing it even when we actually want something different.

Here is a chance to come back. To come into full awareness of what we're holding, and in doing so begin to dissolve it. This creates the possibility to return to both ourselves and one other, to trust, to what's actually true instead of what we're supposed to think or say, in spite of expectations we didn't know we were functioning underneath.

Enter the real work of repair.

So what's the solution, and where do we practice it?

 

Ideally, in a venue where real time experience sets the foundation for  embodied experience.

 

In a supervised and supported setting with experts and specialists in the methods being presented.

 

In a group dynamic where we get to practice feeling safe to being seen, heard, felt and understood in real time. There is no substitute.

 

This is REPAIR the Divide.

 

It's a somatic, experiential, and practical retreat focused on repairing collective relational dynamics between men and women.

 

Which means this is not:

•A lecture

•A debate

•Group therapy

 

Instead, this is an arena for relational alchemy, where participants learn how trust is actually restored, through the body, through connection, and through clear relational frameworks.

WELCOME TO...

The REPAIR the Divide RETREAT

More than just an information drop; it's a skill-building environment where participants get actual experience, a transformational portal and an upgraded tool kit.

You’ll leave with:

  • Practical frameworks for embodied repair

  • A clear map to navigate rupture and reconnection

  • Skills you can bring into partnership, dating, co-parenting, leadership, and community

  •  Clarity, deeper understanding, and an enhanced sense of belonging

This is about learning how trust is rebuilt, not just why it breaks. 

This isn't about repairing existing conflict between participants; rather we are focused on excavating existing collective wounding and supporting each other in healing.

Day 1: Safety, Ground, and Truth

  • Regulate the nervous system through resourcing practices that help you slow down and land

  • Build trust in gender-based ally groups 

  • Share about your lived experience and begin to feel genuinely met

  • Explore curiosity about the other group's lived experiences 

  • Groups bridge through a fire ceremony grounded in consent and intention

Day 2: Being Seen Without Defense

  • Speak your truth in structured listening circles 

  • Experience being deeply listened to 

  • Gain insight into how harm and disconnection formed on both sides

  • Leave with a deeper, embodied understanding of one another

Day 3: Repair, Integration, and Relief

  • Engage in guided repair processes focused on accountability and restoration

  • Practice stand-in apologies to name harm, regret, and new intentions

  • Integrate insights so they actually stick beyond the retreat

 

This approach is comprehensive, grounded in the body while providing immensley valuable insight.

We focus on:

  • Nervous system regulation, creating capacity in the body and psyche

  • Embodied communication and emotional healing

  • Repair happening in real time, with observable internal shifts as a result

The container is structured and held with care, so people can stay oriented even when emotions run hot (which typically means it's working.)

The work includes:

  • Small group practice

  • Paired relational  and integrative exercises

  • Circle work based on your socialized gender identity

  • Facilitated cross-gender dialogue

We're not interested in performative healing. We're interested in actually owning and understanding what our hurt is so we can effectively do something about it.  It is vulnerable, authentic, skillful, and real.

 This retreat is for people who:

  • Want to repair trust between men and women, rather than stay polarized
  • Are willing to feel, listen, and take responsibility

  • Are willing to examine their own patterns, not just point out others’

  • Can tolerate discomfort in service of real transformation

  • Want to move beyond “who’s wrong” into “what actually restores trust”

  • Are ready to experience more harmony in ALL of their relationships

 

This retreat is not for people who:

  • Want to argue gender theory

  •  Are unwilling to engage in embodied self-reflection

  • Are seeking a space to shame, fix, or convert others

 

 

 

 

 

 

ON GENDER.

At this retreat, we will be exploring patterns of gendered socialization as a pathway toward reconciliation. For the purposes of this work, we’ll be inviting participants into two groups: people who were socialized as female and people who were socialized as male. These social patterns shape relationship dynamics, wounds, and power in ways that often live in the body. You do not need to identify as a woman, a man, or any particular gender to participate in either group. You are simply choosing the circle that best reflects the way you were raised and conditioned.

We also want to be clear that, although the structure uses two groups, we do not hold the belief that gender is binary. We understand gender as expansive, fluid, and lived in many forms. The socialization framework is a tool, not a definition of who you are.

We will do everything we can to create safety, belonging, and inclusion for participants who identify outside the gender binary. And because this work can touch deep layers of identity and embodiment, if you identify as nonbinary, trans, gender-expansive, or outside the binary in any way, we warmly welcome a conversation with you ahead of time to explore whether this workshop feels like the right fit for your needs and your lived experience.

Our intention is to honor your fullness while still working with the social forces that shape how we show up with one another. If you’re drawn to this work, we would love to connect.

"Jef shares clean, accessible effective tools that can be used for personal healing and shared to make a community-wide positive impact. His knowledge of the science and methods for blending this welth felt experience will leave you feeling safe, informed, acknowledged and inspired. Thank goodness for this human and his call to share his wisdom with the world, this is what we need right now."

 

 
 

"Hazel-Grace is an absolutely masterful facilitator. Their precision in relating is unmatched, and the depth learning they create is extraordinary."

 

 

"Having the Art of REPAIR tool to help ease conflict and help my people find greater cohesion is so powerful it brings me to tears. This work is the vital key needed to building and sustaining community"

Meet Your Guides

 

Dr. Hazel-Grace Yates (they/them) is the creator of The Art of REPAIR, a relational methodology for navigating conflict, rupture, and reconnection with more clarity, courage, and care. With over 25 years of experience facilitating groups, couples, and communities, Hazel-Grace brings a rare blend of depth, warmth, and practicality to the work of healing relational divides.

They hold a PhD in Human Sexuality and have spent more than a decade working at the intersection of intimacy, power, gender socialization, and nervous system regulation. Hazel-Grace is a Certified Integral Circling Facilitator, Authentic Relating Facilitator and Trainer, NVC-trained, Queer Competency Certified, and a Certified Trauma-Informed Somatic Practitioner.

Known for their grounded presence, humor, and precision, Hazel-Grace creates spaces where people can tell the truth, slow down, and learn how to stay connected even when things get hard. Their work is especially devoted to repairing the inherited and interpersonal wounds between men and women, without blame, bypassing, or performative niceness.

Hazel-Grace believes repair is not just a skill but a practice of cultural healing, and that learning how to come back into right relationship is one of the most important capacities of our time.

 

Mos Jef brings 13 years of experience as a transformational guide, consultant, integrative coach, speaker, healer, teacher and high performance mentor for a decade.

He is a master level Shadow EFT practitioner, teacher, and trainer, as well as the founder of the Sanctum Institute of Life Harmonization

His highest ideal is to model and help people influence energetic/emotional mastery and algorithmic patterns of thought that further psychological harmonization. 

His vision is one of integrative healing which continuously disperses itself throughout our collective psyche.

Your mind is the most complex instrument in the known universe.

He's the guy that helps you tune it.

HEARTLAND 

COLLECTIVE

 

Our retreat will take place on this magical off-grid property in the Sierra Foothills of Northern California.

PRICING

Includes workshop, food and accommodations for three nights.

Pricing ranges from $750 to $1350, depending on accommodation choice

Once your application is approved, you will receive a link to options and payment.

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